Beauties & Beaties

Wednesday, January 11, 2006

Snips, Snails and Puppy Dog Tails

What are little boys made of? The question we pose today: Is it OK for boys to play with toys that are associated with girls? Would you let your son play with a doll? What are the implications?

He Says: Grab a G.I. Joe or a giant Tonka truck and set that in front of him right away! You want to allow your son to live out his nurturing side? Buy him a puppy. Better yet, buy him a snake. Even better yet, buy him an Official Red Ryder Carbine-Action Two-Hundred Shot Range Model Air Rifle. Do you want your son carrying around a Bratz doll at soccer practice? Imagine the ridicule your kid is going to have to endure. If he insists on buying a doll, you might have to just give in. But you should make some minor modifications to it including: drawing scars on its face, giving it a toy submachine gun or sword, and replacing the pink PJs with camoflauge. Better yet, just get him the damn G.I. Joe and never speak of getting a doll ever again.


She Says: There's nothing wrong with letting a boy play with toys that are associated with girls (unless it's Mommy's toys she keeps hidden in the dresser). C'mon guys! I never understood why this was such a huge ordeal; like a toy is going to emasculate your son in some way. So what if he wants to play with a doll. Maybe he's checking out Barbie's boobs. Maybe he's learning how to nurture and be a care-giver, now there's a concept. Playing with girls' toys will not scar him for life; that's what parents are for.

16 Comments:

Blogger :P fuzzbox said...

Little boys and little girls are inherently different. When my son was a toddler. I caught him playing with his sisters Barbie doll. He had broken over the naked Barbie at the waist and was using it as a play gun shooting everything in sight. So maybe a Barbie Doll isn't such a bad toy for a boy.

8:34 AM  
Blogger Pixie said...

I have no problem with boys playing with girly toys at all.Nobody cars when a little girl likes cars,trucks and trains.
As long as he is not playing with Barbies at 14 or something.

8:55 AM  
Blogger KC said...

I agree with Pixie... it might be strange at 14 or so, but otherwise -- so what?

Do little boys seek out girlish toys if there are no girl toys around in the first place to intice them?

My son is an only child and he never asked for girl toys. He did ask for toy guns but we wouldn't let him have any. He wasn't into cars/trucks/hotwheels. Mostly he liked video games and hammering away at his Playschool Workshop.

10:52 AM  
Blogger Jamie Dawn said...

My son played with toy guns and all the boy type toys AND he had a boy baby doll that he loved. He drug that doll around and slept with it too. He also had a favorite stuffed doggie. It was no big deal at all. He outgrew those toys, and an issue was never made about any of them. He never asked for a girl baby doll or a Barbie. His sister had plently of those for him to terrorize.

11:45 AM  
Blogger The Phoenix said...

It's a double standard, somewhat. It's more socially acceptable for a girl to play with cars or trains. A boy plays with a barbie or girl's doll, society is more apt to think that's strange.

Don't label the kid a "sissy boy," forever and shunned by his peers. The sooner our children learn that societal pressure is too strong to overcome, the better they will be able to conform and assimilate.

12:21 PM  
Blogger Laura:) said...

Yes, why change the boy, when you can change the views.

5:30 PM  
Blogger David Amulet said...

Sorry, Siren--he's got you on this one.

I agree with your point that it's inherently OK for the boy to play with the toy. But you sidestep Phoenix's point about the ridicule from others that can come from playing with dolls. That point is still valid.

-- david

4:22 AM  
Blogger David Amulet said...

Sorry, Siren--he's got you on this one.

I agree with your point that it's inherently OK for the boy to play with the toy. But you sidestep Phoenix's point about the ridicule from others that can come from playing with dolls. That point is still valid.

-- david

4:22 AM  
Blogger MsAmber said...

Tough one. I wouldn't mind him playing with any toys, as long as he played appropriately.
And by appropriately, I mean:
Sharing and not being deliberately destructive.

MsAmber

1:45 PM  
Anonymous tje weirdgirl said...

I let me son play with a silver evening bag. It's shiny, he likey. But then he's only 10 months old.

I wouldn't worry about dolls too much either. Even when they are 14 - by that age you probably can't do much about it anyway. (But then I live in California.)

11:10 PM  
Blogger ziggystardust73 said...

at some point the boy is going to have to deal with ridicule regardless. playing with dolls will only be one opportunity for it out of many.

those stereotypes exist only because people perpetuate them.

5:52 AM  
Blogger Crazy Dan said...

There is something to be sad for the boy named Sue. It might make him stronger playing with a doll the ridicule and beating coming his way by the only boys would either kill him or make him stronger.

4:24 PM  
Blogger Anna said...

I think all toys are genderless. Boys can play with dolls and girls can play with trucks if they want to.

9:41 AM  
Blogger Dear Jane said...

having both boy and girl children in our home, we have one of everything...barbies, cars, trains, dress up clothes. I let each kid choose what they want to play with and 90% of the time, the kid's choose to play with gender stereotypical toys, but it does not bother me in the slightest the 10% of the time that my daughters play with cars and my son wears the dress up clothes...you cannot MAKE someone homosexual by allowing them the choice to play with whatever they want.

5:33 PM  
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