Beauties & Beaties

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

The Sting of Rejection

A person recently posted this question on a dating website:

"I'm mainly asking this for future reference. However, what is a nice way of telling someone you're not interested? I guess when we're adults, we should be able to handle it, but I still have a hard time with it. If I meet someone and they try to set-up another date right-away, but I'm not really interested, what should I say? Thanks."

Should she break out the "Maybe we can just be friends" line? Or perhaps, "I just got out of a relationship and I'm not ready to date". What advice would you give for this dating dilemma? What's the nicest way to "just say no"?

Tuesday, June 06, 2006

The Numbers Don't Lie...Or Maybe They Do?

There comes that time in every relationship where the dreaded question might be asked. I don't mean a proposal or asking your significant other if your butt looks big in those pants. I mean, the "how many before me" question. We posed this question to fellow bloggers Big D and Vic, and here is their take on whether it's OK to ask the question of your significant other, and if asked, should you lie about it?

She Says: In this day and age I think its very important to be upfront and honest with your significant other about your sexual history. I mean, getting knocked up isn't the worst thing that can happen you know. You can get things penicillin won't cure. And so, you should be very honest no matter what the cost. If you really love this person, there should be no secrets.

There's nothing quite like the truth to strengthen a relationship after all. I assume you wonder how this conversation went with Hubby and me. Ok, here goes…..are you freakin' kidding me? We haven't had that talk. EVER! He hasn't asked and I ain't volunteered – and we've been married 15 years. Uh huh. I'm a chic in the deep south. It's well documented that I was a whore in high school, but I wore white on my wedding day and by God, that means something. Means I am never telling. My non-virgin lips are sealed!

I don't care who Hubby's done and would lie if he asked me. I think a man appreciates a woman that has experience, but denies it. I'm sticking to that.

And ladies if you happen to ever get backed into that corner, my advice is simple…lie like me…just like you did with all those other callers. Don't get me wrong, you can't say you're a virgin if you're not. What you should do is keep it to a number under 5. Make sure all your fellas fit on one hand of counting and quickly throw in that you saved the best for last and oh by the way, he has the biggest, best package and no matter what no one will ever compare, ever. Course after him you would never want to do anyone else. Yes, you'd settle for a life of celibacy if you had to give up bending over for him. That will do it. And if it doesn't, then throw in a few tears about how you regret all the others and wish you'd "saved yourself" for him.

Oh, and just for the record, I'm just talking trash. All of mine will fit on one hand and the last one was the best and all that. Really. And, please be safe. There really are things penicillin won't cure. You can't be too safe.

He Says: The topic is, "the question"...the one about how many others there have been before your current significant other. First, is it OK to ask that question and Secondly, if it is asked should you lie about it?

I think this question is: How many women or men have you fucked before me? It is OK to ask this question, but it really shouldn't matter. It shouldn't make any difference by now if they're your significant other already you've already slept with them. Get over it. However, if you decide to ask this question be prepared for the truth. When answering this question I don't really see the point in lying. Sure it's easier., but don't be a lazy fucking prick or bitch tell them the truth. They deserves the truth. If they weren't prepared for it, then they shouldn't have asked. I don't want to hurt them, a little lie won't matter. I don't care if you've fucked half the population of Vegas as a former sex worker. You made that choice, it is a part of you. Your partner deserves the truth. If they can't accept whatever answer you give then they are not worth it anyway. If you asked and can't accept your partners answer you need to get over yourself and be prepared to go fuck yourself. That's exactly what you're going to be doing.

However saying all that, if you have:

  • Never slept with anyone.
  • Slept with an entire sport team.
  • Done a gang bang with over 20 people.
  • Been a prostitute
Tell you BF/GF before you sleep with them. It's only considerate and safe.
I don't sugar coat shit, that's just the way it is.